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Kris
"No matter how hard it is, you have to believe in your decisions even if others don not, you sill can do it"
An abusive mother who used physical violence towards Chris and called names like “freak”, “degenerate”, “it would be better not to be born”, “ungrateful”. Chris tried to solve problems with arguments, friendliness, indifference, shouts. Mother always found a reason to reproach Chris, and nothing worked. Any trip with the family always ended in tears or beatings, and Chris was not given the choice whether to go or not.
Chris did everything for her mother to praise her at least once - she studied perfectly, took care of the house. When wasn't watching, the beatings became more severe: when he was at home, he could stop mother's actions.
Chris's father did not believe that her mother could beat her.
Due to the lack of any support from both acquaintances and friends, Chris developed depression and suicidal thoughts.
When Chris tried to talk to her parents about it, to ask them to sign her up to a psychologist, her mother answered: “We are not a family of madmen. You will disgrace our family. " This way, Chris was unable to receive any assistance as a minor. A suicide attempt happened after it.
After some time, Chris was fortunate enough to find supportive friends from youth centers, "Beaver's Boomerang" [youth leisure organization] and the LGBT community, she got little pug as well. They helped overcome the social anxiety caused by years of abusive relationships.
“After what I experienced with mother, I thought if he isn't beating me, it’s already great.”
At the age of 19, Chris was able to move from her parents' place to study in medical school. This turned Chris's life for the better, she met her future husband at that time - the most supportive person.
"In order to have healthy relationships with others, you need to be healthy yourself.”
After she moved, mother tried to cause her pity. Mother deliberately violates the doctor's instructions in order to get to the hospital and attract attention. The father still denies the problems and does not understand why daughter does not want to communicate with mother.
Chris advised to always believe that everything will be better.
“Even if now you do not have the tools to solve your problem, they will appear later and life will get better: the main thing is not to give up.”
“In such a family, where adults cannot be changed, it is better to move away as soon as possible.”
